We do not need a special day to bring you to our minds, a day we do not think of you is very hard to find. They say time heals all sorrows and helps us to forget, but time so far has only shown, how much I miss you yet. If tears could build a stairway and heartaches made a lane, we would walk the path to heaven and bring you home again.
moving on in to the new year / Catherine Siegel (Friend/CoWorker)
As the New Year comes in to swing and you think of all you are letting go as time progresses, many things come to mind that you must share. You get this feeling that you have to move on and let the past fall behind you, but that is a lot easier said than done. I find it really hard to let go of the things and more importantly the People I have lost in the year past. Christina was such a huge part of everything that has to do with the summer and Hidden Pond. I associate her with the Camp itself, and give her credit for all the Good memories I have of it. So much so in-fact that I will not return next year for a 5th time, I can't. It hurts too much to know she won't be there. I know that I am not the only one who has these feelings, and I wish all of the good luck in the world to those who return to hidden pond, I just can't be one of them. I can't let her go for so many reasons, and entering this New Year is extremely hard, as I’m sure it is for anybody who knew Christina. The only thing I can do at this point is just hope for the best and TRY to cope with what the world has lost in her passing. I extend all my love to her father and little Brother Nick, and say that if you ever need a helping hand I am just an E-Mail away, and am always willing to lend a hand with anything you may need. The last thing I must say is that I feel like the luckiest person in the world just having known Christina in the short time she graced this earth with her presence and for that I cannot that God enough. I miss you Christina and you will forever remain in my heart. Close
Thinking of You Christina / SHSW Varsity Soccer (Classmates)Read >>
Thinking of You Christina / SHSW Varsity Soccer (Classmates)
Christina, The 2005 Senior Boys Soccer Team members have joined together and in the name of Coach Tom and Coach Rock have made a contribution to the Christina Marie Poggioli Scholarship Fund. As we progress though our senior year at West, you are ever present Christina. Your spirit and motivation are now and forever a part of the class of 2005. You will walk through life with all of us as well as the many students who your scholarship fund will benefit. Sincerely, Smithtown West Soccer 2005 Heart and Tradition 10-4-2 FOR YOU CHRISTINA Close
You taught me so much. / Margherita Rappa (Cousin)
How do I explain our relationship? Well we grew up together, all my summers growing up including you and your family. We were happy, and close and always had so much fun. I know you were a little younger than me so we probably didn't spend a lot of time playing together, but you, no matter is theres blood between us or not, you are my little cousin. And losing you was hard. Even though we hadn't seen eachother for a while. (God Im choking up just writing this) I love you like i love everyone in my family. You don't know what you did for the family. Or for me, you showed me what a good person truly is. You are the last person who deserved this. Sweet little Chrissy, I hate that the first time I saw u in years was at your funeral. I hate that so much. I feel like it wasn't fair that I didn't get to experience knowing the beautiful and amazing Christina Marie Rose Poggioli when she was all grown up. Ill hold on to the memories i have though, at aunt Pat's house and cute little chrissy there with little Nicky. I know now how short life is. I swear to you I won't take advantage of the time Im given. I only hope that when it is my time, that im at least HALF the woman you turned out to be. I wish I had the courage to do as much as you did in your 17 years. One things for sure, no one will ever EVER forget you, we love you and miss you always. I hope you know that, I hope you hear our thoughts and prayers! Close
The ninth annual Worldwide Candle Lighting, held the second Sunday in December around the globe, is an opportunity for bereaved families everywhere to remember and celebrate the lives of children who have gone too soon. Families are invited to attend any of the hundreds of formal services throughout the United States and the world or to light a candle in the privacy of their home. You do not need to be a member of The Compassionate Friends to participate.
A memory book will be available on this website for all to sign throughout the day, Sunday, December 11. Extended chat hours will be available from 7-11 p.m. EST on the same day. To access the chat rooms during this time, click on the "Chats" button on the left side of the Home page. The chat will be held in the General Bereavement Chat Room. The sibling chat will be held at the normal time of 9-10 p.m. EST.
What is The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting®? The candle lighting is held annually as a way for all caring persons to remember those children who have died from any cause, at any age, regardless of cultural, ethnic, religious, or political boundaries. The Worldwide Candle Lighting is made up of hundreds of memorial services around the globe and thousands of smaller observances in the home with family and friends.
When is The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting? The event is held annually the second Sunday in December at 7 p.m. local time. Candles stay lighted for one hour in each time zone around the world creating a virtual 24-hour wave of light.
When and how was the Worldwide Candle Lighting started? The Worldwide Candle Lighting started in the United States in 1997 as a small Internet observance by leaders of The Compassionate Friends as a way to remember all children who have died.
How large is the Worldwide Candle Lighting today? No one really knows, but it is believed to be the largest mass candle lighting on the globe and is believed to have participants numbering in the hundreds of thousands. Last year TCF received information on more than 300 formal worldwide candle lighting events taking place just in the United States, representing a 100 percent increase in just two years. In addition, TCF received notification of candle lightings in many other countries, which included approximately 60 on the Germany TCF website. Because families are encouraged to hold candle lightings in their home if they do not wish to, or cannot attend a formal candle lighting service, there are no doubt thousands of observances held simply with family and friends present.
How can I go about organizing a formal service? We're happy to help. You may download the TCF brochure on planning a Worldwide Candle Lighting service. This has all the information you need to plan and hold a meaningful service.
Does my organization need to be affiliated with The Compassionate Friends to hold a formal candle lighting? Definitely not. This is a worldwide event and all are welcome to participate in remembering beloved children gone too soon. We do ask you to fill out the online form advising us of your memorial service so that those who visit our site and live in your area may attend if they wish.
How does National Children’s Memorial Day relate to The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting? The United States Senate has, for several years, joined in the Worldwide Candle Lighting remembrance by unanimously passing resolutions, at the request of The Compassionate Friends, declaring the second Sunday in December of each year National Children’s Memorial Day. We appreciate our government’s understanding of what this day means to so many.
Are there other opportunities to remember children during the Worldwide Candle Lighting? Yes. The Compassionate Friends national website will feature a special remembrance book December 11 so that you may leave a message remembering a child, relating a special memory, or sharing a poem that has helped you in your grief. We encourage you to share your thoughts with others who understand and care. There are also special chat rooms throughout the day accessible from the TCF website.
Where is The Worldwide Candle Lighting publicized? Every year publicity becomes more widespread with coverage before, during, and after The Worldwide Candle Lighting in hundreds of newspapers and on dozens of television stations. In the past, the event has been featured in Parade Magazine, Ann Landers column, Guideposts magazine, Annie’s Mailbox and even on a nationally syndicated television program. You will also find information on hundreds of websites. The Compassionate Friends encourages you to help publicize this meaningful event. Visit The Compassionate Friends national website often for links to newspaper articles about The Worldwide Candle Lighting as they are published.
What can I do to make this event even more successful? Everyone can help to spread the word whether by handing out Worldwide Candle Lighting buttons, contacting newspapers and other media, placing posters on bulletin boards at libraries, senior citizen centers, stores, and other locations, or coming up with a unique public awareness idea. We have heard from bereaved parents who went to their neighbors along their street and asked them all to light candles. Call or e-mail your friends and relatives and ask them to light a candle. If no local service is planned, you can be the person who makes a difference by organizing an event in your community. The ways in which you can make the Worldwide Candle Lighting even more successful are limited only by your own imagination.
We do this . . . that their light may always shine!
THIS WAS SENT TO ME AND I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE IT WITH HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS: / Tom Poggioli (Dad)Read >>
THIS WAS SENT TO ME AND I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE IT WITH HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS: / Tom Poggioli (Dad)
WHEN DEATH STEALS FROM US SOMEONE WE LOVE, WE HAVE TO GO THROUGH A TIME OF REDEFINING WHO WE ARE. IS HAS BEEN SAID THAT WHEN YOU LOSE A PARENT, YOU LOSE YOUR PAST. WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR SPOUSE, YOU LOSE YOUR PRESENT AND WHEN YOU LOSE A CHILD, YOU LOSE YOUR FUTURE. THEREFORE, YOU ARE NOT ONLY STRUGGLING TO COME TO GRIPS WITH THE VOID THAT THIS LOSS HAS CREATED IN YOUR LIFE BUT YOU ARE ALSO HAVING TO REDISCOVER WHERE YOU BELONG AND HOW YOU FIT IN. THIS IS A MONUMENTAL TASK ANYTIME OF YEAR, BUT CAN BE FURTHER COMPLICATED DURING THE HOLIDAY SEASON. SOME PEOPLE ADAPT WELL TO CHANGE IN THEIR LIVES, WHICH IS A BLESSING; HOWEVER, THOUGH OTHERS TRY TO PUT ON A FACADE APPEARING AS IF ALL IS FINE, INTERNALLY THEY MAY BE FEELING CONSUMED AND OVERWHELMED. IF THAT DESCRIPTION REFLECTS HOW YOU ARE FEELING, YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF HOBBLING METHODICALLY THROUGH FAMILY GATHERINGS, SOCIAL EVENTS, AND CEREMONIES BRAVELY ON THE OUTSIDE, WHILE FEELING SHATTERED, BROKEN AND LOST ON THE INSIDE. KNOW THAT YOUR FEELINGS ARE REAL AND VALID. THOUGH THERE IS NO QUICK REMEDY FOR GRIEVERS, THERE ARE SOME OPTIONS THAT YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER TO HELP EASE THE BURDEN AND BRIGHTEN YOUR DAYS. BE GOOD TO AND HONEST WITH YOURSELF. THINGS ARE GOING TO BE DIFFERENT. YOUR WORLD CHANGED THE MOMENT YOUR LOVED ONE DIED;THEREFORE, TRYING TO RECREATE THE PAST WILL BE IMPOSSIBLE. TAKE THINGS SLOWLY, PLANNING EVENTS AND GATHERINGS THAT NUTURE YOUR SPIRIT, RATHER THAN BURDEN YOUR SOUL. DON'T TRY TO TAKE ON TOO MUCH, OR DO THINGS THAT AREN'T COMFORTABLE FOR YOU. BE CAREFUL NOT TO WITHDRAW. TIME ALONE IS GOOD, BUT DON'T ISOLATE YOURSELF. ITS IMPORTANT TO SHARE YOUR HOLIDAYS WITH SOMEONE. IF YOU DON'T HAVE PLANS WITH FAMILY OR FRIENDS, CHECK YOUR LOCAL NEWSPAPER FOR EVENTS THAT MIGHT INTEREST YOU. MANY CHURCHES, HOSPICE GROUPS AND/OR CLUBS OFFER REMEMBRANCE SERVICES, DRAWING TOGETHER GRIEVERS. THEY CAN BE VERY HEALING. DON'T HESITATE TO REMEMBER YOUR LOVED ONE AND CELEBRATE THEIR MEMORY. THIS PERSON WAS AN INTEGRAL PART OF YOUR LIFE. TO SUPPRESS THEIR MEMORY WOULD BE TO DENY A PART OF YOUR OWN BEING. HANG A SPECIAL ORNAMENT ON THE TREE, LIGHT A CANDLE, OR PLAY THEIR FAVORITE MUSIC. THERE ARE GOING TO BE SOME DIFFICULT MOMENTS AND TEARS;BUT REMEMBER...THOSE MEMORIES ARE THE TREASURES YOUR LOVED ONE LEFT FOR YOU TO KEEP. REMEMBER THAT IS IS OKAY TO CRY AND LAUGH. TEARS ARE GOD'S WAY OF CLEANSING OUR SOULS. IT IS THROUGH THIS CLEANSING THE WE HEAL AND GROW;HOWEVER, DON'T DENY YOURSELF THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER EITHER. LAUGHTER LIGHTENS THE HEART AND BRIGHTENS THE SOUL. REMEMBER THE JOY OR YOUR LOVED ONE'S LAUGH, AND BASK IN THE WARMTH THE MEMORY BRINGS. IF YOU AREN'T RECEIVING THE LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU NEED FOR ONE SOURCE, LOOK TO ANOTHER. REMEMBER THAT FAMILY AND FRIENDS HAVE ALSO BEEN DISPLACED BY THE DEATH OF THIS PERSON, AND THEY ARE STRUGGLING THROUGH GRIEF AS WELL. SOMETIMES WE FOCUS ON ONE PERSON TO GIVE, OR PROJECT, THE LOVE WE DESIRE, AND THEY MAY BE INCAPABLE OF GIVING AT THIS TIME. SO LOOK TO THOSE WHO REACH OUT TO YOU AND ALLOW THEIR LOVE TO FILL THE VOID. WE PUT EXPECTATIONS ON LOVE. LOVE IS A GIFT. OPEN YOUR HEART AND LET IT FLOW. THOUGH YOU WILL HAVE MOMENTS OF DEPRESSION, BE CAREFUL NOT TO ALLOW IT TO CONSUME YOU. COMMUNICATE WITH FAMILY, FRIENDS, CLERGY, PROFESSIONAL COUNSELORS AND GOD. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ASKING FOR HELP. REMEMBER, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. AS THE JOYS AND EVENTS OF THE DAYS AHEAD UNFOLD AROUND YOU, OPEN YOUR MIND AND HEART TO THE BLESSINGS OF THE SEASON. OFTEN THE THINGS THAT BRING US THE MOST JOY ARE THE LITTLE THINGS. THE WONDER IN A CHILD'S EYES, OR THE SMILE OF A STRANGER. A BIRD SINGING IN THE MORNING, A RAINBOW, OR THE SMELL OF COOKIES BAKING. THESE ARE THE THINGS THAT MEND OUR HEARTS AND WARM OUT SOULS. THEY ARE GIFTS FROM GOD. TEN STEPS TO EASE THE HOLIDAYS: *TALK ABOUT YOUR GRIEF *RECOGNIZE YOU PHYSICAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL LIMITS *REDUCE STRESS *SPEND TIME WITH SUPPORTIVE,COMFORTING PEOPLE *START A NEW TRADITION IN MEMORY OF A LOVED ONE *EMBRACE MEMORIES *EXPRESS YOUR FAITH *PUT TOGETHER A HOLIDAY GIFT PKG, DINNER BASKET AND DELIVER IT TO A LOCAL CHURCH, OR FOSTER CARE AGENCY FOR A NEEDY FAMILY *FOCUS ON THE SPIRITUAL DIMENSION OF THE HOLIDAYS *AND, PERHAPS MOST OF ALL, LOVE YOURSELF
SOCKS!!!/ Tracey Camenzuli (fryend)
hey there angel, i just wanted to let you know that i miss you more and more as each day comes. last night i sat in my bed like all night and thought about you a lot and all the random fun times we had. and i just realized that the pictures that i had of us from when we went to applebees are on my old harddrive on my computer and i dont have them anymore, pooie. the holidays are here, it's not going to be the same without you around and giving each other a radnom spiffy gnarly rad pair of socks. speaking of socks i have this really awesome pair that comes above me knee, yes above me knee because of my shortnes, it's quite funny. oh and i forgot to tell you before when i was talking to you that i got a tattoo and it's for you, but its not done yet. right now it's just a purple star. i got it because your favortie color is purple and your now my shining star in the sky so i thought it fit perfectly. well it is time for me to go to school. i hope to come visit you soon, i'll leave you a pair of socks because it's freezing down here, but i know it's nice and warm and perfect where you are. well i miss you bella. mi amore tu. ciao<3 Close
I just wanted to tell you about a funny thing that happened the other day, I had a baby. While in the hospital I was thinking about Jordan's birthday party, and one of our last conversations; you were so surprised to hear everyone talking about the baby. And, forget about the fact that the ultrasound had already said I was having a boy. The look on your face was priceless, especially when you found out that Missy and your Dad knew already. With a family the size of ours I still don't know how you didn't know sooner. But, that priceless look...I'll never forget it! Please, watch over both Jordan and Sean. And, help her be as great a big sister to her new brother as you are to Nicky. As far as big sisters' go, you are the best and I can't think of anyone I would rather Jordan have as a role model (and that's not just in the big sister category). I love you and miss you with all my heart. You are always in my thoughts.
Dearest Christina / Laura Camenzuli (friend)Read >>
Dearest Christina / Laura Camenzuli (friend)
I miss you soo much I don't know how to make it stop hurting so much. A day doesnt go by that Im not thinking about you. I try to keep in touch with your father, brother and family as much as possible. Now with the holidays coming I know daddy and nicky need everyone around them. I love you so much and I want you to know that I will never stop, I will never forget all the good times we had and the special bond we had between us.....you were my 3rd daughter as you once said..........Have to go for now I love you always ................. Close
MY CHILD / SELMA FLYNN BOBBO.MEMORY-OF.COM (friend)
On the day God took you
I thought that I would die
I wondered where the time went?
I asked alot of whys??
With people all around me
I felt alone inside
From all their words of comfort,
I couldn't seem to hide, I thought I might be dreaming
That I'd wake and find you here,
I thought "This can't be happening."
As I wiped another tear.
On the day that you were laid to rest
My heart broke yet again,
I wondered if the pain would end,
But mostly, I wondered when??
It's hard to be without you,
At times the days seem long,
Sometimes I just sit crying,
When there's really nothing wrong.
I wish we'd had more time,
Before your life was done.
I hope your resting peacefully,
My precious child, Close